So I'm pretty positive Trio has imaginary friends. Yes friends---I would think it's one except he usually says "guys" which does imply plural. And if he doesn't have imaginary friends then he has a hell of on imagination. ^_^
Take this for example--he's taking to carrying around the four pieces from Candyland (his men is what he calls them). The other day we went to the library because a book I put on reserve came in and I went to pick it up and I told him he had to leave his men in the car because I didn't want to risk the meltdown if we lost them. We get the books and head back to the car and he grabs all his men and says four times "You're back!!". The last one was in a deep growling voice so at first I was taken aback like "What the heck?" and then I realized he was giving them voices and talking for them because after that he replied "I'm back guys!" I was like Oh okay that's what we're doing.
Then the other day we were sitting on the recliner when it was out and he turned to his left and said "Psst....let's tickle Mommy". And I was like "Who are you talking to?" in my head before the Trio Tickle Monster attacked me. So yeah, pretty sure he has some imaginary friends floating around here.
Which I don't mind. I think most parents do because they think it's the sign of a loner and a kid who can't play with others which is not the case with Trio. He can play fine with other kids and I'm okay with his imaginary friends unless they refuse to stop playing with him (then I'd worry). But I seriously love his active imagination because that means he can entertain himself. I always played "pretend" when I was his age and it was my favorite game. One thing I dislike about most kids today is they can't entertain themselves for anything. If they do not have a DS, Wii, or some other kind of gaming device in front of them they walk around moaning "I'm bored!!" But Trio...while he does like his TV and his DS and Mobi, he can always play with his toys and come up with his own game. Everyone who watches him play for an extended amount of time always comments "I just want like 10 minutes in his head to know what he's thinking" and I'm the same way. So I don't mind imaginary friends at all....as long as they don't start telling him to do acts of violence. Then we may need an intervention.
Sunday, April 29, 2012
Friday, April 20, 2012
So far in Year 4.....
So I don't know what it is about Trio but it seems like every time we go to the doctor or somewhere because he's delayed in something within the next two weeks it seems like an issue anymore.
Let me give examples--he had his 4th birthday in February and with it came doctor's appointments (and 5 shots...5!! And they didn't even give a lollipop...bastards). Anyhoo his doctor expressed concern at his lack of talking and the fact that he wasn't potty trained yet. For talking she used the reasoning that she should understand about 90% of what he says and she only understood 50%.
Okay first off let me say I like Trio's doctor. I really do the reason I choose the insurance at work that I did was because I could choose to keep her because she's good at her job....she's damn good kids love her parents love the whole nine yards. But (after the initial Mommy guilt wore off) I was like...he sees you once a year. Maybe twice if he's sick. You poke him you prod him and you send the nurse to give him shots. You're almost a stranger because at this age he doesn't have the...I don't know the word I guess I'll just he doesn't care to remember you and if he doesn't know you, unless he's really happy he's not gonna talk to you. The whole idea of "A stranger should understand him" no they shouldn't a stranger shouldn't be talking to my kid enough for them to have a whole dialogue there that's a good way to get punched in your throat.
I digress.
And then there's the potty training thing which I fully admit that hey we took awhile. Why do you ask? Same mentality as daycare. I'm with Trio during the day--my husband and sister are with him at night. While it's not my sister's responsibilty since she did her potty training time, she does with help with him at night and honestly there is no reason for me to have made it a point to put him on the potty, do the treats, do the potty dance all day while I had him if the second shift was not gonna keep up with it. Even though the company talked about it when I was at daycare I help potty train *one* kid and that was only because her mother was a teacher there so I know she would keep up with it. So yeah he was in a pull up...we were potty training but Trio was still kind of avoiding the toiliet because he didn't get it.
So we went to a speech evaluation and I had Mommy guilt about that. But the ladies were nice and what they basically said was this: he knows his letters, he knows his numbers, he knows (most) of his colors. He shows empathy (I guess the lady hurt herself or pretended to because she said he looked at her with concern and was like "Are you okay?"). They did say he was delayed in talking but they didn't know if it was because he was actually speaking gibberish...or talking too fast which is a possibility because I did (and apparently still do sometimes). Because of this he qualifies for the (free) half day at the local elementary school. Basically it's pre-pre school where they do what they do in preschool but since it's not kindergarten potty training is not required and a speech therapist comes in to work with them. He'll get schooling and social skills so I'm down.
However--like I said getting what this long story started as now he's a chatterbox. He is talking all the time and it helps that I'm engaging him more but his words are coming in pretty clear. Also, we have got pee down in the potty. Sure we have a few accidents when we get excited and poop is still a work in progress. But it took like a week for him to actively start saying "Gotta go to the potty!!!"
Will we still do the school? Probably simply because I don't see the harm in it, it's free, and he could still use help with his speech. Plus he'll love to be around kids he's gonna be one of those that pushes me out the door on the first day of kindergarten (so someone needs to be on stand by to go get wine with me so I can cry into the glass). But as it stands as always I'm pleased with how he's doing. ^_^
Let me give examples--he had his 4th birthday in February and with it came doctor's appointments (and 5 shots...5!! And they didn't even give a lollipop...bastards). Anyhoo his doctor expressed concern at his lack of talking and the fact that he wasn't potty trained yet. For talking she used the reasoning that she should understand about 90% of what he says and she only understood 50%.
Okay first off let me say I like Trio's doctor. I really do the reason I choose the insurance at work that I did was because I could choose to keep her because she's good at her job....she's damn good kids love her parents love the whole nine yards. But (after the initial Mommy guilt wore off) I was like...he sees you once a year. Maybe twice if he's sick. You poke him you prod him and you send the nurse to give him shots. You're almost a stranger because at this age he doesn't have the...I don't know the word I guess I'll just he doesn't care to remember you and if he doesn't know you, unless he's really happy he's not gonna talk to you. The whole idea of "A stranger should understand him" no they shouldn't a stranger shouldn't be talking to my kid enough for them to have a whole dialogue there that's a good way to get punched in your throat.
I digress.
And then there's the potty training thing which I fully admit that hey we took awhile. Why do you ask? Same mentality as daycare. I'm with Trio during the day--my husband and sister are with him at night. While it's not my sister's responsibilty since she did her potty training time, she does with help with him at night and honestly there is no reason for me to have made it a point to put him on the potty, do the treats, do the potty dance all day while I had him if the second shift was not gonna keep up with it. Even though the company talked about it when I was at daycare I help potty train *one* kid and that was only because her mother was a teacher there so I know she would keep up with it. So yeah he was in a pull up...we were potty training but Trio was still kind of avoiding the toiliet because he didn't get it.
So we went to a speech evaluation and I had Mommy guilt about that. But the ladies were nice and what they basically said was this: he knows his letters, he knows his numbers, he knows (most) of his colors. He shows empathy (I guess the lady hurt herself or pretended to because she said he looked at her with concern and was like "Are you okay?"). They did say he was delayed in talking but they didn't know if it was because he was actually speaking gibberish...or talking too fast which is a possibility because I did (and apparently still do sometimes). Because of this he qualifies for the (free) half day at the local elementary school. Basically it's pre-pre school where they do what they do in preschool but since it's not kindergarten potty training is not required and a speech therapist comes in to work with them. He'll get schooling and social skills so I'm down.
However--like I said getting what this long story started as now he's a chatterbox. He is talking all the time and it helps that I'm engaging him more but his words are coming in pretty clear. Also, we have got pee down in the potty. Sure we have a few accidents when we get excited and poop is still a work in progress. But it took like a week for him to actively start saying "Gotta go to the potty!!!"
Will we still do the school? Probably simply because I don't see the harm in it, it's free, and he could still use help with his speech. Plus he'll love to be around kids he's gonna be one of those that pushes me out the door on the first day of kindergarten (so someone needs to be on stand by to go get wine with me so I can cry into the glass). But as it stands as always I'm pleased with how he's doing. ^_^
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