Seriously what is it about the 3s? This is a CRAZY age. If we're not having a battle of wills over everything including eating, drinking, napping, (and yes I know you're not suppose to argue with a toddler but dammit it's hard not to sometimes) then he's running around like a speed freak screaming and bouncing like a Popple and I'm like "WTH? Who gave you crack kiddo?"
I mean I understand this is where they exert their independence which is fine. I NEVER wanted a clinger (a Mama's boy if you will) simply because well I'm gonna sound sexist but I want a tough boy. I think of the term overly sensitive when it comes to boys and think of the Brendan Frasier from Bedazzled. Yeah. Seriously? Who wants that? Not that I want Trio to be a bully but I do not want a scrape you get from falling on the sidewalk to end in hysterics that makes an observer think he broke a bone.
But man this independence is kicking in hardcore. Not to mention the greed. Mine mine mine. With our friends toys!! We were at a birthday party last weekend and I had to remove him TWICE because he wanted to get all the balls for himself and not share with the other kids there and I'm like "Dude. The kids here are sharing with YOU!! It's not even your toy is it really worth it to throw this fit over it?"
TWICE people. TWICE. Usually removing him ONCE is more than enough but twice? Ay yi yi And we fight about eating. I'm a mom who makes her kids eats something she knows they hate. It drove me crazy growing up that my family would plop greens and spinach and cabbage on my plate after I had tried it knowing I didn't like. It drove me crazy and when I was younger I saw Crooklyn and the sign where the mom made him eat the black eyed peas to the point where he threw up on the plate and I'm like "Yeah I don't want that." So I offer him mac and cheese but I never make him eat it (yeah I know I get the weird one that doesn't like mac and cheese).
But when I put things in front of him that I know he likes and he doesn't he's just being stubborn and a pain in the patootie and that's when I get upset. And because I'm me I talk to him like a little person and am like "Seriously kid? I don't make you eat things you hate. You LIKE this now EAT it." And then he stares at me with the stubborn set to his face that is a smaller version of my angry face and all I think is "Thank God you're not a girl because puberty would suck for all in the Nieto household."
And then there's the sugar high and I don't know how he gets it but he'll randomly start running around the house, bouncing up and down and screaming at the top of his lungs because he's happy. Yesterday we were watching Rugrats and the beginning credits (the new version from when Dil was around) and he would sit there and laugh and squeal and I'm like "WTH is the matter with you? Is it that crucial? Are we that excited?" Even Albert will look at him sometimes and be like "What did you give him to eat?" and I have to let him know "That is all Trio baby. No sugar need be added." But I will admit it does sometimes make me smile to see him take pleasure in such a little thing. I think that's why adults are so bitter sometimes because they forget how to do that. So to see something as simple as the opening credits on Trio's favorite show inspiring such joy is nice.
That's all for today. Trio is doing fine otherwise than that healthwise and just his normal energetic self. Trying to decide what to do for lunch. Maybe pizza we'll see what the hubster says.
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Friday, March 11, 2011
Stubborn
Is there any word that is worse than this one when you are using it to describe a 3 year old? I mean of course I know there are but seriously this is one of the worse. Because that is what Trio is. Just plain and flat out S-T-U-B-B-O-R-N!!
And the most annoying thing about it is I can't get too mad. Everyone one in my family is stubborn and I do mean everyone. It's something that seems to come as part of the DNA such as the sarcasim gene. And while I defintely will admire this way of thinking when he is older and sticks to his guns and beliefs in the face of the adversaries that he will surely face just living life and the way the world is going right now it is a pain the butt to have to say "On your BOTTOM!" sooooo many times to him. Sometimes the only thing that gets him to do what I ask him to is to stand up which leaves him dashing off with the "Oh crap she's serious" look on his face. Or he sits down (hard I might add) and just starts angry crying because God forbid I ask him to do something he doesn't want to do. /sigh
But I do know that's part of being a parent and as he gets older I will have to describe to him that we as adults have to do things we don't want to do. Does it suck? Yes. But there are many reasons we do them. For love, to be civil, to avoid conflict, and at the end of the day some things are just not worth fighting over. Sorry but it's true.
I want Trio to stay stubborn only because I do believe that when used for the appriopriate things it's a wonderful trait such as not giving in to peer pressure for drugs, drinking, or teasing someone because they're different. I think stubborn people get things done because at some point it stops being stubborness and starts being determination and a determined person can do anything that they put their mind to. I want the best for my son and I want him to strive for his dreams. But I don't want him to be like some of my friends who go to the mat for every....little....thing. I don't want him to be one of those people who's stubborness stays that and never matures to determination, someone who is just going to piss and moan over everything because it's not their way and not adapt or compromise because they're so stubborn. Because people like this? Die old and alone. Which is not something I want for Trio.
So yes son enjoy being stubborn know while you have the blanket of being a toddler. Because at some point, it will have to adapt and change and you will have to learn that just like everything else in life, there is a time and a place for digging your heels in when it's really really important.
Kind of a serious blog for Trio. It's also late LOL. Don't worry not too many will be like this.
And the most annoying thing about it is I can't get too mad. Everyone one in my family is stubborn and I do mean everyone. It's something that seems to come as part of the DNA such as the sarcasim gene. And while I defintely will admire this way of thinking when he is older and sticks to his guns and beliefs in the face of the adversaries that he will surely face just living life and the way the world is going right now it is a pain the butt to have to say "On your BOTTOM!" sooooo many times to him. Sometimes the only thing that gets him to do what I ask him to is to stand up which leaves him dashing off with the "Oh crap she's serious" look on his face. Or he sits down (hard I might add) and just starts angry crying because God forbid I ask him to do something he doesn't want to do. /sigh
But I do know that's part of being a parent and as he gets older I will have to describe to him that we as adults have to do things we don't want to do. Does it suck? Yes. But there are many reasons we do them. For love, to be civil, to avoid conflict, and at the end of the day some things are just not worth fighting over. Sorry but it's true.
I want Trio to stay stubborn only because I do believe that when used for the appriopriate things it's a wonderful trait such as not giving in to peer pressure for drugs, drinking, or teasing someone because they're different. I think stubborn people get things done because at some point it stops being stubborness and starts being determination and a determined person can do anything that they put their mind to. I want the best for my son and I want him to strive for his dreams. But I don't want him to be like some of my friends who go to the mat for every....little....thing. I don't want him to be one of those people who's stubborness stays that and never matures to determination, someone who is just going to piss and moan over everything because it's not their way and not adapt or compromise because they're so stubborn. Because people like this? Die old and alone. Which is not something I want for Trio.
So yes son enjoy being stubborn know while you have the blanket of being a toddler. Because at some point, it will have to adapt and change and you will have to learn that just like everything else in life, there is a time and a place for digging your heels in when it's really really important.
Kind of a serious blog for Trio. It's also late LOL. Don't worry not too many will be like this.
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Trio's Talking....
or lack thereof. We had Trio's appointments this last week both the cardiologist (which was moved due to the Snow Day in Austin [yes that much snow qualifies as a snow day for us so shut it]) and his pediatrician which was moved due to Dad's death. Dr. Holt was very pleased with Trio even though we may have been less than truthful about how often/regularly he was receiving his medicine. He liked hearing how active he was and that it didn't tire him out more easily than any other 3 year old. And if you've seen Trio you know he can MOVE!! Relatives here a few weeks ago even commented on this saying "Shoot...looking at that boy move around makes ME tired!" So I was very pleased with that. I worry about his heart because I want him to be the All-Star Athlete if he wants to be but if he needs to be more careful I want to be prepared way ahead of time. We go again in July/August and then we will know if our bi-yearly visits can go to just once a year. I do enjoy Dr. Holt's company but I would not be displeased if we only had to see him once a year.
Then there was the pediatrician Dr. Holliman. On the good front Trio's weight and height is fine. I guess I've been use to seeing much chubbier children around Trio's age so I assumed he was underweight but it turns out he is fine exactly where he is. So yay on that! We are also potty training which is hard because all we've done is fart on the potty. Not sure if he gets the concept that you can actually sit there and make yourself go but it's a work in progress. The one thing she was concerned about was his talking.
It makes me think of that joke how you spend the first few years getting them to talk and then the rest until they're 18 telling them to be quiet. Trio does talk but not as much other three year olds his age. Occasionally he'll spout out with a phrase that I didn't know he knew or like today spend a whole day answering me when I spoke to him. But she thinks we need a speech therapist through the school (which is free) and a private one through the summer (which is not and unsure if my insurance covers it). However I did find out today from a friend that Trio may qualify for the starting preschool program (as he is 3) and we may qualify due to our income which would be great. She even mentioned that they may have a summer program which would be even more awesome because that means we wouldn't have to find a private tutor.
I'm not saying she's incorrect because she is a doctor and Trio doesn't speak a lot. Although in the back of my mind when she was like "A stranger should understand 75% of what he says" I was thinking "WTH would he be talking to a stranger anyways?" So that will be another obstacle to try to cross and since then we have been spending more time speaking with him and trying to get him to respond. As I said it is a work in progress and who knows? Maybe next week he'll just up and start speaking clearly. Weirder things have happened. :)
Then there was the pediatrician Dr. Holliman. On the good front Trio's weight and height is fine. I guess I've been use to seeing much chubbier children around Trio's age so I assumed he was underweight but it turns out he is fine exactly where he is. So yay on that! We are also potty training which is hard because all we've done is fart on the potty. Not sure if he gets the concept that you can actually sit there and make yourself go but it's a work in progress. The one thing she was concerned about was his talking.
It makes me think of that joke how you spend the first few years getting them to talk and then the rest until they're 18 telling them to be quiet. Trio does talk but not as much other three year olds his age. Occasionally he'll spout out with a phrase that I didn't know he knew or like today spend a whole day answering me when I spoke to him. But she thinks we need a speech therapist through the school (which is free) and a private one through the summer (which is not and unsure if my insurance covers it). However I did find out today from a friend that Trio may qualify for the starting preschool program (as he is 3) and we may qualify due to our income which would be great. She even mentioned that they may have a summer program which would be even more awesome because that means we wouldn't have to find a private tutor.
I'm not saying she's incorrect because she is a doctor and Trio doesn't speak a lot. Although in the back of my mind when she was like "A stranger should understand 75% of what he says" I was thinking "WTH would he be talking to a stranger anyways?" So that will be another obstacle to try to cross and since then we have been spending more time speaking with him and trying to get him to respond. As I said it is a work in progress and who knows? Maybe next week he'll just up and start speaking clearly. Weirder things have happened. :)
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