Stubborn

Is there any word that is worse than this one when you are using it to describe a 3 year old? I mean of course I know there are but seriously this is one of the worse. Because that is what Trio is. Just plain and flat out S-T-U-B-B-O-R-N!!

And the most annoying thing about it is I can't get too mad. Everyone one in my family is stubborn and I do mean everyone. It's something that seems to come as part of the DNA such as the sarcasim gene. And while I defintely will admire this way of thinking when he is older and sticks to his guns and beliefs in the face of the adversaries that he will surely face just living life and the way the world is going right now it is a pain the butt to have to say "On your BOTTOM!" sooooo many times to him. Sometimes the only thing that gets him to do what I ask him to is to stand up which leaves him dashing off with the "Oh crap she's serious" look on his face. Or he sits down (hard I might add) and just starts angry crying because God forbid I ask him to do something he doesn't want to do. /sigh

But I do know that's part of being a parent and as he gets older I will have to describe to him that we as adults have to do things we don't want to do. Does it suck? Yes. But there are many reasons we do them. For love, to be civil, to avoid conflict, and at the end of the day some things are just not worth fighting over. Sorry but it's true.

I want Trio to stay stubborn only because I do believe that when used for the appriopriate things it's a wonderful trait such as not giving in to peer pressure for drugs, drinking, or teasing someone because they're different. I think stubborn people get things done because at some point it stops being stubborness and starts being determination and a determined person can do anything that they put their mind to. I want the best for my son and I want him to strive for his dreams. But I don't want him to be like some of my friends who go to the mat for every....little....thing. I don't want him to be one of those people who's stubborness stays that and never matures to determination, someone who is just going to piss and moan over everything because it's not their way and not adapt or compromise because they're so stubborn. Because people like this? Die old and alone. Which is not something I want for Trio.

So yes son enjoy being stubborn know while you have the blanket of being a toddler. Because at some point, it will have to adapt and change and you will have to learn that just like everything else in life, there is a time and a place for digging your heels in when it's really really important.

Kind of a serious blog for Trio. It's also late LOL. Don't worry not too many will be like this.